by Kimberly Grams
A few months ago when I heard about Cashmere Mafia (Wednesdays on ABC) and Lipstick Jungle (Thursdays on NBC), I thought “Cool! That’s an article!” Both are basically the same show about power women in New York City, and people on both projects had ties to Sex and the City. The article was going to be Cashmere Mafia vs. Lipstick Jungle. Better title? Best shoes, best cast, best plot, best acting. You know, compare them in several categories and see which one comes out on top.
I was really busy, but I wedged in some time to watch the shows. Cashmere Mafia had a few episode head start. It’s watch-able, but kind of like Desperate Housewives in the City, without the clever wittiness. Lipstick Jungle is almost cringe-worthy – the writing is clichéd, and the cast can only do so much with it. So I start thinking . . . there’s not really an article here. I wouldn’t necessarily recommend either show to Higher Things readers. And then our illustrious editor, the Rev. Richard Heinz, asked the same question: Is there an article here?
He had a GREAT idea for a different topic (which will be coming to you shortly), and so I started mentally switching gears. I mean, I have NOTHING in common with the women in these shows – not really anything to identify with. I’m not a single girl in the city or a work-outside-of the-home mom. I’m not a power executive in fashion, finance, or film. No one in Scottsbluff, Nebraska cares what I’m wearing, and there won’t be any nasty articles in the paper about my life or work. I’m not eating in the car while rushing to something else. Oh wait, I do that sometimes. But that’s not really an article.
In the middle of my brain transition from one topic to the other, I got the worst headache ever—the kind of headache that lasts a week and triggers multiple migraines—the kind that keeps you in bed and sometimes you can’t even think through it. So I emailed the aforementioned editor with the news that I was not going to make my Monday deadline; that really bothered me, because I take my commitments seriously. My schedule for February was already booked to the hilt, and the article was the only thing I could put off.
To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, in the last TWO WEEKS I have: sung for a major fundraiser (complete with a REALLY CRAZY 60’s hairdo and literally a half a can of Aquanet); sold 40 dozen enchiladas for my kids’ school; written my previous article; had workmen replacing the windows in the kitchen of the parsonage; choreographed and taught the opening number for the 4th grade musical; had two family birthdays and my 10-year-old daughter’s first sleepover (where the basement was transformed for an “Under the Sea” theme; went to NINE stores looking for a Whitman’s chocolate heart with a stuffed Snoopy (don’t ask – that would be a whole other article). Oh yeah, and it’s Lent. Plus the headache.
This week I have: the piano tuner here as I write this; an exam for our life insurance; two more numbers to choreograph and teach to 4th grade non-dancers (my specialty); a houseguest arriving for a long weekend; delivery of the 40 dozen enchiladas; a speech about being a writer for the annual “Friends of the Library” meeting. That is my February – and that’s not including everyday things like kids’ activities, church stuff, laundry, etc. I’m just a little overwhelmed. Why do I do so many things? They are all important to me in different ways and most are limited-time commitments. I do it once or for a certain time period and then I’m done. God gave me gifts, and I want to use them.
Somewhere around the fifth time my husband told me to stop worrying about not meeting my article deadline, I realized something. I DO have something in common with some of those women. One of the themes for some of the characters is trying to balance their work and home lives – and they are clearly over-committed and have WAY too many things on their plate. One of the Cashmere episodes even had a woman who was trying to plan her son’s Laser-tag-in-the-park birthday party while doing about 200 other things. That sounds a tad familiar. My schedule is booked up through the end of July, and although most of it is not as bad as February, some of it is close. I have very little room to cram more in or take care of anything that goes wrong.
Why should you care about my February to-do list? Because we all over-do it at some time, especially women and work-a-holics. I heard a joke once that goes something like this: I know of IRREFUTABLE proof that God is a man and not a woman . . . on the 7th day of creation he RESTED. I know there are some of you out there – both guys and gals who haven’t had a break that really need one.
So if you’re one of those people, I recommend skipping both Cashmere Mafia and Lipstick Jungle. Put your feet up and watch something else. Read a book. Take a nap. Do anything that doesn’t involve checking something off your list. My article is being turned in a day late – but on Sunday I actually took a break. Watched some shows with my girls AND finished a book. And tomorrow, after teaching choreography – I’m going to the library to get some more. Because sometimes it IS a jungle out there – I just don’t always have time for the lipstick!
Kim Grams is a writer and pastor’s wife who lives in Scottsbluff, NE. A dancer and an avid reality TV viewer, she debuted with the article Diary of an American Idol Junkie.
Silence. Complete and utter silence. That was Jesus’ response to her. Her daughter was terribly vexed with a demon, a horror we can only imagine. She was at her wits end. All the parenting skills in the world could not help her daughter. She was at the end of her rope. She went to the one Man who could help her. She went to Jesus, the Son of God, the Messiah. Surely He would help her! Surely He would look at her plight and would have mercy upon her by healing her daughter.
First of all, we have to remember what God’s goal is for your life. God’s goal for your life is not that it be without troubles. That may be our goal for life. I think sometimes that all we really want is for there to be no problems or worries. That would make life pretty easy, wouldn’t it? No, God’s goal for your life is to bring you to heaven to be with Him forever. That is a very clear goal for him, but the problem is that because we are beset with sin, we cannot always see the path. What may be the most direct route for us may look like a terribly hard road. It’s kind of like looking over the top of a hill. You just can’t get too much of a sense of how much is left or even what’s on the other side as long as you are on the journey.
What this Canaanite woman understood was that when everything else is stripped away, when her trust in herself is gone, when her trust in her family and lineage is gone, when every ounce of self-worth and fulfillment lie in the dust, then, and only then, can God’s work of healing and life begins. In other words, she had hope in Christ and not in herself.
Our Canaanite woman had nothing to cling to on her own. She had no family. She had no name. She had no resources. Doctors couldn’t help. Nothing could help her daughter. All she had was God’s promise of mercy. And she grabbed on to that like a dog to a bone. She would not let God’s promise for a blessing go, no matter what. Just like Jacob in our Old Testament reading, she was willing to wrestle with God Himself in order to receive the blessing that He had promised.
Why do these things happen? Why do college students die? What motivates someone to do something so horrific? And on Valentine’s Day too! We cry out to God for an answer, and He is silent. He says nothing. What then? What do you do when something hits you so hard that you have no clue why God did that or even allowed for that to happen?
In her Pop Culture articles for Higher Things, Kim Grams has spoken of promises she made to herself. Several years ago I too made a promise. “If Carter ever leaves E.R., I am done. That’s it!” They have killed off or written off every original character, it seemed, and that would be the last straw.
I have disliked her character since she was introduced. Now I do not simply dislike her; she turns my stomach. One of the last episodes shown this year was called: “Atonement.” It featured a cancer patient named Truman who had been a prison doctor. Dr. Truman had executed prisoners by lethal injection. He now had a tortured, misguided conscience that caused him to believe he had broken the Fifth Commandment. Now he was trying to track down all the affected families to apologize, and feared dying under God’s wrath.
Sadly for her, and for the many others who believe this, it is not so. God does have absolutes. Jesus IS the Truth! There is no salvation apart from Christ.
Dear children of God: Never let go of God’s Word! It will keep you safe! Never stop hearing God’s Word. It will protect you from the Evil One. Adam and Eve show us our repentance for this First Sunday in Lent. They let go of God’s Word. They ignored it. Adam didn’t preach it when he should have. Eve didn’t hold on to it when tempted. Together they let God’s Word go and then they were sitting ducks for the Serpent. You, dear Christian: cling to God’s Word. Hold on to it as the greatest treasure. Please, hear my plea, today, brothers and sisters in Christ. NOW is the time of God’s favor, NOW is the day of salvation. Don’t put it off. Don’t wait. Don’t think that learning God’s Word is something you can find time for later. Parents, please! Don’t let your kids avoid God’s Word in Sunday School and Catechesis. Don’t teach them that there are things that are more important and can scoot God’s Word to the side. Adults, we have Bible Study twice a week in addition to Catechesis on Wednesdays. Please don’t think you’ve learned enough or have nothing else to hear from God’s Word. Children and youth, listen! As you grow older, as your time gets filled up with all sorts of other things, don’t think that you don’t need God’s Word. Keep coming to hear it preached. Come and study it and learn it. All of you Christians, don’t be like Adam and Eve who listened to the Devil, and gave up God’s Word. Rather, come and hear it. Read it every day. Learn it. Study it. Cling to it. Make your pastor answer your questions about it and teach it to you. Make it your highest treasure and joy! Of course I can’t make you hold on to God’s Word. And in fact I know that neither you nor I will do it. We will fail, as Adam and Eve did. So listen carefully today, again, to God’s Word. To the Promises of Christ which save us by His Word.
The story of Man’s fall shows us clearly three things which befell Man when they let go of God’s Word. But the Lord was right there to give His promise of salvation in the One born of a woman. So Jesus comes and undoes what we have done and saves us. First of all, Adam and Eve didn’t listen to God’s Word. They knew it but they didn’t follow it. There’s our first repentance. We have God’s Word. We’ve learned our Catechism. We know the Commandments, the Creed and the Lord’s Prayer. But when the devil, the world and our sinful flesh get going tempting us, we forget all about that. What the world says we should do and get and how we should, that’s what sounds better. We struggle through life as if the Word of God doesn’t teach us how to live and act and behave and get along with our neighbor. Even worse, we let the world tell us about God instead of learning about Him from God’s Word. When we reject the Word like that, we deserve nothing but eternal death. So Jesus comes. And He takes on flesh. And He gets baptized and then He goes into the wilderness. The devil twisted God’s Word and caused Adam and Eve to fall into sin. The devil comes to Jesus and also twists God’s Word. But this time, the devil doesn’t win. This time, the Man wins. Jesus holds fast to God’s Word. He clings to what His Father has said. And it drives the devil away. When you despise God’s Word, recognize it! Confess it! And hear the Good News: Christ has kept it. His keeping and holding on to God’s Word counts FOR YOU.
When Adam and Eve sinned, God brought punishment and a curse to them and the world. Suffering, heartache, pain in childbearing, the toil and drudgery of daily work to eek out a living, thorns and thistles and sickness and death: These are the things our sin has earned. And they are no different for us. When we get sick, when we fail, when we die, when nothing is as we wish it were, then pay close attention: you are witnessing the punishment of God upon sin upon earth. The Lord has cursed this earth so that we will never trust in it. It won’t save us. The Lord is punishing His creation for what Adam and Eve have done. And we bear that punishment and suffer it because of our own sins. Dust you are and to dust you will return. And what is dust? It’s what the Serpent gets to eat! So Jesus comes to take that punishment upon Himself and free us from God’s wrath. Jesus comes to wear a crown of thorns to show that He is carrying the curse not for Himself but for all of us. Jesus comes to offer Himself as a target for the Devil. And why? So that the worst and final punishment of God—eternal death—is not given to us. Jesus suffers the punishment for our sins so that we are set free. When you eat Jesus’ body and drink His blood, remember that He has taken your punishment. Adam and Eve ate the fruit which brought them death. Jesus feeds you with Himself, the fruit of the tree of the cross, flesh and blood given for you that give you life and rescue you from the punishment and torments of eternal hell.
On this first Sunday in Lent, brothers and sisters in Christ, parents and kids, and all Christians, learn your repentance from Adam and Eve. Learn what happens when you pay little or not attention to God’s Word. Learn what happens when you let God’s Word go and listen to the whisperings of the devil. And repent of that awful sin! And learn what God does about such things. Learn how God continues to give us His Word. Learn How He clothes us. How He takes the punishment we have coming. How in every way and from every angle, our Lord Jesus rescues and saves us from our sins and makes things right with God. Lent has begun. All eyes and ears on Jesus who is the Word. The Word God the Father has given to save us! The Word who crushes the Serpent’s head. The Word who crowns your head with glory! Amen.
The season of Lent is usually associated with “giving something up”, or not eating meat on Fridays. One year I gave up television for Lent. I figured I spent too much time just sitting around and channel surfing. So I figured I would deny myself that pleasure (and waste of time) and use that time for better things…like surfing the web! Then I went to school with my daughters one day. One of their fellow kindergartners asked me, “Pastor why did you ground yourself from TV?” Good question! Why did I give up something for Lent? (With the writers’ strike, giving up TV this year wouldn’t really be giving up much, would it?) Should you give something up for Lent? If so, why? What should you give up? What about fasting? Let’s answer these questions in a way that points us to Jesus and the the forgiveness of sins!

Twenty tissues. That’s my record of tissues used while watching Extreme Home Makeover. It was the episode about the cop who got shot and is now in a wheelchair. The boy with the “glass” bones really got to me to. They all get to me, which is weird because I almost never cry.
I thought they fixed houses. I had NO IDEA how much more it was than that. They demolish the entire pre-existing house, build a new one – often specially designed for health conditions or particular needs. They tailor the rooms to the specific hopes and dreams of each person in the family. And the houses are the most amazing, creative things you’ve ever seen. They aren’t just building dream houses; they’re building dreams. They are helping each family get out of a horrible situation by wiping the slate clean. They give the family a fresh start.
So one day, out of the blue, this random thought hits me – this is what it will be like in heaven, only times infinity. We can’t even dream big enough for our brains to comprehend how absolutely amazing it’s going to be. Jesus is preparing a place for us. What came before will be completely demolished, and everything will be perfect. “In my Father’s house are many mansions; if it were not so I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.” (John 14:2).
Dear Christian, you have nothing to prove – not to me, not to yourselves, not to anyone. Not even to God. What I mean is this: Your life is already guaranteed in Jesus. Now – with nothing to prove – begin the season with ashes, with fasting and praying and rending your hearts.
You have nothing to prove by any of this, dear Christian. Do these to PROVE something – so people see and believe you are Christian – so God is convinced you are His – and you have done NOTHING. Our works are only good for something when we have nothing to prove.
By them, you ARE partakers of His divine nature!
There’s your repentance and faith this season. You do these things – freely – as Jesus did. Not to prove yourselves with God and men, but in praise of God, and in service of others. You do them, not selfishly to be seen, but selflessly to serve! You do them, because even the sinless Son of God fasted and prayed for strength against the devil. What easy targets WE are when we treat our Life in Christ complacently.
People who don’t live in New Orleans have a lot of misconceptions about Mardi Gras and Carnival. The stereotype is that it’s a pornographic display of public nudity and drunkenness. Church groups even send “evangelists” to try to convert the revelers.
Anyway, Mardi Gras is a religious festival – French for “Fat Tuesday,” signifying the last day of feasting before Lent begins the next day on Ash Wednesday. It is elsewhere called “Shrove Tuesday.” It is a time of joy and feasting – a time to “get it out of your system” before the season of self-examination, self-discipline, and mortification of the flesh of the six-week Lenten season prior to Easter. Carnival (“farewell to flesh”) refers to the several weeks between Epiphany (January 6) and Mardi Gras. Mardi Gras is the pinnacle of the Carnival season.
And attention is hard to get during Carnival! I guess that’s why they try to be just as garish as the rest of us who are enjoying ourselves. But truly calling folks to repentance just isn’t dramatic and theatrical
This past weekend I attended the Higher Things Retreat, “Watermarked” hosted by Trinity Lutheran Church in Sheboygan, WI. It was as great as everything else that Higher Things has to offer.
The next part of the quote, “Is means IS,” talks about Communion. When Christ instituted Holy Communion He said, “This IS My Body,” and “This IS My Blood.” IS means IS! When we receive the Lords supper we receive His Body and Blood for the forgiveness of sins and life everlasting. And, best of all, “I forgive you” means just that! I forgive you!
On Saturday, we all got to experience a Sheboygan Brat Fry. Then, of course what better thing to do at a retreat called “Watermarked,” than play in water! Saturday afternoon was spent at the Blue Harbor Indoor Water Park. Of course there was a certain Texan playing in a more frozen form of H2O every time he walked outside. Pr. Borghardt just seemed to find the snow amazing.