Rev. George F. Borghardt
When Adam saw Eve, it was on like Donkey Kong! She was the cream in his jelly donut, the icing on his cake, the Yin to his…well, you get the point. She was made from his side. He was “not good” without her.
They were the happy ending to Romeo and Juliet. They were Edward and Bella without the fangs and blood. They were more royal than William and Kate and more perfect than Westley and Buttercup.
And, like any good love story, when Adam saw Eve, the world froze for him. What else was he to do other than to break into song? “Finally! This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh! She shall be called ‘woman’ for she was taken from a man.” A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:23-24) Did she giggle like a school girl? How could she not? She completed him. She wouldn’t “be” without him.
She loved him. He loved her. They were holy. They were pure. They were chaste. They were decent. It was friendship and like and love all in that one instant. They happily-ever-after-ed and were married. Then, came the honeymoon and all the “two-becoming-one-flesh-ness.”
Then, there was the Fall. Adam tried to possess Eve. They used one another. They turned their God-given desire for each other into something that would become its own god. They ate what was not given to them to eat. They disobeyed the God who created them and brought them together. Sin came into the world, and with sin came death. They fell and we all fell with them.
Lust is one of the fruits of their fall. It is the twisted, fallen desire to do something with someone who isn’t your Adam or your Eve. It is the thought behind the action, the urge before the doing. It starts innocently enough, with just a second look—an itch that quietly asks to be scratched. What if? Wouldn’t that be nice? A kiss…maybe more. Just a little thing. What’s the harm in letting your mind wander a bit? And before you know it, the daydream goes from PG, to R, to NC-17.
Hearts race, minds contemplate how to make the dreams come true, we get excited, maybe even communicate what we want to the other person. There are no accidents here as we run, scheme, and plan to make what we want a reality. Lust always ends in full blown sin. Always. You can’t have hot coals in your lap, says Solomon, and not get burned (Proverbs 6:27).
That’s lust, not love. Love comes from the God who created Adam and Eve. It is patient and doesn’t go too far. It doesn’t treat others as if they are possessions or just things to be wanted, owned, or consumed. Love is seen in the suffering and death of Jesus.
That’s how Christ loves His bride. She is born out of the water and blood flowing from His pierced side. She’s doesn’t exist to scratch His itches or just to give Him pleasure. No, He serves her. He cares for her. He loves her! He really does. He loves her not only with words but also by giving up His life for her.
She receives from Him, lives from Him, breathes from Him. He gives to her, who she is. His Words wash her. His Words feed her. His Words change her world. She is who she is because He speaks her, creates her into being.
He is chaste. He refrains from immorality. He is decent. He makes His Bride chaste. He makes her decent. He is holy. She is holy in Him.
For you were bought with the price of the holy life and bitter sufferings of Christ. He has redeemed you, bought you back, from all your sins, from all your lusts, from all your itches, to be his own. You are His. He is yours.
You are chaste in Him. You are decent. You are pure. You are not lust-filled. You wait until marriage to do all the things that aren’t given you until marriage in Christ. You are holy in Him.
One day, He may give you your Adam or Eve. It could be Katniss or Peeta or Gale. He will give you the particular gift that is just right, very good, and just for you. You can wait to do what isn’t given to you to do until then. And if you have failed already, He has given you forgiveness and a new start. You are right now, for Christ’s Cross has made you chaste and decent already in Him.
Rev. George F. Borghardt is the president of Higher Things and serves as the senior pastor at Zion Ev. Lutheran Church in McHenry, Illinois.
		
		
“Pastor, I’m gay.” “No, you’re baptized.” “What do you mean? I know I’m baptized but I’m telling you I’m attracted to the same sex.” “Yes, and you’re baptized.” “What does that have to do with being gay?” “Because what defines you is not your sexual orientation or your addictions or anything else like that. What defines you is not your sins. What defines you is what Christ has done for you and given to you. So, you are baptized.”
		
 Sometimes I think we treat Jesus’ departure like the death of a loved one. We know they’re with God in heaven but they’re gone from this life and so the best we can hope for are our good memories and a visit to the cemetery once in a while. So it is with Jesus. Christmas! He was born. Good Friday, He died. Easter, He rose. Now Ascension and He’s gone away and since we can’t see Him anymore, it’s like all there is left is to piously think about Him once in awhile. It’s as if coming to church is like going to visit the cemetery; we’re there to remember someone who’s not around any more. But no way! That’s wrong! That’s not how it is at all! Listen again to what St. Mark says, “And so when He had said these things, He was received up into heaven and sat down at the right hand of God. And they went out, preaching to all nations, the Lord working with them.”
		
		
 My wife and I have three sons. I’d say my quiver is quite full, even though I don’t have seven or eight children. Arrows in the hand of a warrior? Yes, I’d say so, but I suppose I mean that a bit differently than the Psalmist. Of course, I agree with the Psalmist, too. Don’t get me wrong. My gates will be well-defended with my three Russian-born adopted sons and their genetic body-building physiques. Did you see Rocky IV? Enemies beware! You will lose! But sometimes the arrows are aimed right back at me. That’s what I was getting at. Honestly, I struggle as a father. It’s a weighty vocation with increasing demands, not just on my time, but on my patience, too. It’s tough raising three boys! Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them? It’s true. In spite of the struggles and challenges of parenthood, there are many blessings.
		
 Unless your family is rather unusual, being unmarried is pretty much the default for American teenagers these days. A lot of your friends are probably dating, and thinking and dreaming about marriage to their “special person” one day. Maybe you are, too!
		
We don’t often hear the word “fellowship” associated with marriage. But “fellowship” is more than just a “relationship” or being together. “Fellowship” implies a participation and oneness with the other person. With the words above, the LORD gives us His first “holy hint” about the purpose for the institution of marriage. It was not God’s intent from the get-go that anyone would be an island to him or herself. Two are better than one—as wise Solomon writes in Ecclesiastes— because they can help each other. So God made a helper for Adam—somebody with whom he could fellowship.
		
Does your church have a crucifix? By crucifix I mean a cross with Jesus’ body on it. Some people have said that Jesus shouldn’t be shown on a cross because He’s risen from the dead. “He’s not on the cross anymore,” they say. (I bet the same folks might nevertheless have Jesus in a manger around Christmas time, though!) The crucifix is a reminder of what stands at the center of our Christian faith: Jesus Christ, and Him crucified. That’s all St. Paul was resolved to know in His preaching. (1 Corinthians 2:2).
		
For 47 years the University Lutheran Chapel has faithfully ministered to students at UCLA—from those who need their faith nourished to those who have no faith at all. And since August 2005, Rev. Mark Jasa has served as pastor there, bringing his unique life experience and apologetics skills to the table, sometimes literally.
		
When Mel Gibson’s “The Passion of the Christ” movie came out, a group of us from our congregation decided to go see it. I asked one lady why she wasn’t going. Her reply: “No thanks, I read the book.” In the past month, we have seen two big movies (“The Son of God” and “Noah”) released supposedly based on the Bible. There are other movies, too, such as “God is Not Dead” that are exploring Christian themes and attempting to make a defense of the Christian faith.